Why Get Yourself a Coach?
Although I have a lot of coaching experience at this point (20 + years), I believe there is always something new to learn. As a coach, trainer, and mentor, it’s important that I continue to develop myself.
But sometimes, honestly, I find it difficult to dissociate enough to get out of my own way! So, depending on the issue I want to resolve, I will get myself a coach.
I’ve had all kinds of coaches
Personal coaches, business coaches, skills coaches and spiritual coaches. In each case, I feel I’ve benefitted. I began thinking about what reasons others have given for hiring me as their coach and the reasons I’ve had for hiring a coach myself. This post is the result. I hope that, if you’re feeling stuck, it will encourage you to get yourself a coach.
Here are 12 important reasons to get yourself a coach
1. Getting unstuck
Sometimes you might know what you want to achieve, but be unsure about how to get there. You worry about the order in which to do stuff and, sometimes even figuring out how to get started and where to start can be major issues. A coach can help you map out your journey, no matter how long or short. A good map will have elements of flexibility so you can easily navigate any roadblocks that show up and still reach your destination.
2. Remove limiting beliefs
Often these roadblocks will show up as limiting beliefs; beliefs that limit you from being or doing everything you would otherwise be capable of. Limiting beliefs may prevent you from reaching your goals, developing the confidence you need and want, or cause blockages in other areas of your life. The problem is, most limiting beliefs are unconscious — after all, why would anyone consciously limit themselves? And if they’re unconscious, how can you possibly find and clear them?
A skilled coach will listen carefully and notice any repetitive behaviour or language patterns. They will help you examine what’s showing up in your life and ask questions to uncover those dastardly beliefs. Then they’ll use a process to help you change them. As a result, you stop seeing your life through those negative belief filters and experience your world in a more positive way.
3. Find your own answers
A good coach won’t tell you what to do. They will question, encourage, guide, and support you to tap into your own deep wisdom and intuition. Tapping in can be difficult for some people, especially if past conditioning had taught you to ignore or doubt your own inner knowing. Most of us are seeking states of being; happiness, joy, love, connection and we think we’ll achieve those states by ‘doing’ more. But when we’re in the right state of being, we attract what we want easily and effortlessly.
4. Champion You
Get yourself a coach who will hold you accountable for doing the work you agree to between coaching sessions, so you can achieve what you set out to achieve. Your coach should be your number one supporter; encouraging and championing you all the way. She will know how to help you stay motivated and avoid procrastination, and be the first to acknowledge and help you celebrate your achievements. These are important steps in building your self or business confidence.
5. Increase your resilience
Everyone suffers pain, sadness, guilt and many other unwanted emotions because of events or changes in circumstances. A coach can help you embrace your feelings and come to terms with what’s happened. She can provide tools to overcome life’s biggest hurdles and help you maintain your sense of self-esteem as you move forward. This increases your resilience for dealing with future issues.
A coach is someone who sees beyond your limts and guides you to greatness ~ Michael Jordan
6. Turn dreams into reality — or know when to let them go
Anyone can have a dream. But if you cannot take action to turn your dream into reality, it might well go past its use by date. In this way, dreams become obsolete. Sometimes our dreams aren’t even ours — they might be goals imposed on you by society or your family. It’s important to recognise when a goal doesn’t belong to you and to create dreams that are yours, and that inspire you. A capable coach will help you turn dreams into goals — and encourage you to take action to make them a reality.
7. Discover what you want — what you really, really want!
What if your problem is that you don’t know what you want?
This can be a dilemma for many people. They know deep inside they have more to offer the world and truly desire a meaningful life. Your coach should have a range of tools to assist you in discovering your values so you can drill down on what naturally motivates you.
Determining your mission or purpose might involve connecting the threads of your life and weaving them together to form a fabric that embraces your authentic self. Defining your mission or purpose isn’t something you need to make up. The process involves examining your interests, hobbies, skills, and the qualities of the people you admire. You’ll detect the clues from the different aspects that make up your life now as well as your rich history. Your coach will guide you through this process, so you find your true purpose.
Of course, it’s one thing to have a purpose — and another entirely to live it
Your coach can assist you in defining the steps that will lead to living a meaningful life of passion and purpose and then support and encourage you as you get started.
8. Learn and grow
As human beings, we have an innate need to grow and develop. Fortunately, most coaching involves an element of learning. After all, if you learn nothing new, how will you ever do anything differently? Your coach might teach you ways to improve your success or might guide you to some further beneficial learning that will help expedite your goals.
9. Stop repeating old patterns and behaviours
You might not only want to create some new and useful behaviours, but you might also want to let go of behaviours that aren’t particularly useful. Perhaps you allow others to ‘push your buttons’, but would like to cultivate a more considered response. Maybe you want to change your relationship with money so you can attract more abundance into your life?
Possibly you want to get rid of a phobia, anxiety or stress? A good coach will help rid you of these so they don’t inhibit your success; personally or professionally.
10. Prevent you from making mistakes
Mistakes are great for learning. But that doesn’t mean you have to make all of them yourself! By talking through your plans with your coach, she can offer an objective view and perhaps suggest some alternative, less risky, cheaper, or quicker ways of achieving the outcome you want.
11. Improve your communication skills
A coach should have extensive knowledge of effective communication and be an excellent listener. She can teach you ways to get the best from people (including yourself), based on the way you communicate, both verbally and non-verbally. You’ll improve your ability to influence, motivate, and get along with others.
12. Increase your self-confidence
You’ll get deep insights into what really motivates and demotivates you; behavioural patterns that you weren’t aware of, or beliefs that are keeping you stuck. You’ll get honest, caring feedback and help to be more of who you are and how you want to show up in the world — to be your authentic self.
When you get yourself a coach, you may feel challenged, but you’ll get all the assistance you need to move past any fears that might have held you back. Achieving a goal will increase your self-esteem and give you the tenacity to set more challenging goals.
As a result, you’ll grow and develop more rapidly than if you try to do things on your own. Your achievements and your self-confidence will sky-rocket.
Here is a rundown of the 12 reasons to get yourself a coach:
- Getting unstuck.
- Remove limiting beliefs.
- Find your own answers.
- Champion You.
- Increase your resilience.
- Turn dreams into reality — or know when to let them go.
- Discover what you want — what you really, really want!
- Learn and grow.
- Stop repeating old patterns and behaviours.
- Prevent you from making mistakes.
- Improve your communication skills.
- Increase your self-confidence.
- Find out more about SHIFT coaching with Stephanie
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