What The Heck Is NLP? (Neuro Linguistic Programming)


“Why don’t we go right back to the beginning with NLP?”

After recording regular 4-weekly podcasts over several years, Aaron at Raglan Radio (that’s Aaron in the image above) asked just that question. He thought it would be a good idea to go right back to the beginning and talk about what NLP is and how it came about.

After all, many people wouldn’t have heard those first interviews. Although in subsequent interviews I’ve explained Neuro Linguistic Programming by giving an overview and then drilling down on a particular aspect, we haven’t discussed some basics of NLP in years.

So in this interview, we cover the beginnings of NLP

I’ve included some time stamps, so you know where to tune in to a particular aspect. There are also links to previous blog posts, so you can find out more about the facets of NLP that pique your interest.

My suggestion would be to grab your favourite beverage, put your feet up and listen to the whole discussion (it’s 53 minutes long), or put it on and listen on your journey to or from work (probably not that useful if you’re working from home, of course.) If you decide to do this, just skip down the page a little for the audio.

Can I ask you a favour?

Question and answer about NLP on popsicle sticks

As you listen to the recording, if there’s anything that you’d like me to expand upon, please comment at the bottom of the page. I prefer to write about what you’re actually interested in, rather than what I think you might be interested in. Thanks so much. You never know, your question might be the subject of a future blog post or podcast/interview.

  • What does NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) mean? (00.20).
  • Why the ‘programming’ word used to get people’s knickers in a knot! (1.15).
  • How we are ‘programmed’ (1.30).
  • Why some programmes are useful and others just cause us angst (2.10).
  • How we programme ourselves using language. And ways to change unhelpful programming so we can be our best more often (2.56).
  • The development of NLP from the mid-70s, by Richard Bandler and John Grinder (3.08)
  • How the name Neuro Linguistic Programming came about (3.40).
  • Changing our own programming (4.35).
  • How the developers took a different slant. Instead of looking at therapy models, they examined how people achieve success (4.49).
  • Studying the influencers of the time (5.38).
  • Why it’s difficult to teach people the programmes we’ve developed ourselves (7.30).
  • Using specific questions — with examples — to get to the root cause of an issue (9.45).
  • Building rapport (12.20).
  • How we use our eyes (apart from for looking and seeing!) (13.25)NLP Eye Accessing eBook
  • The ‘look to talk’ rule and what it is (13.30).
  • NLP Eye accessing. How eye movement enables access to different sensory information. (14.30)
  • Spelling using eye accessing (15.10).
  • The non-spelling strategy/programme (16.00).
  • How kids might lose their natural spelling strategy (16.38).
  • Accessing sounds and conversations (17.22). Check out my eBook for more on this fascinating subject.
  • Self-talk, feelings and emotions (18.20)
  • Reverse wired (18.35).
  • How the ‘look to talk’ rule doesn’t apply in some cultures. (20.00)
  • Personal space and how much space we’re used to. (21.36)
  • NLP Eye accessing. How did the developers figure it out? (22.40)
  • Milton Erickson and Ericksonian hypnotherapy. (23.51).
  • ‘Artfully vague’ language and politicians. (25.30).
  • Vagueness (big picture) versus specific (detailed) (26.50).
  • NLP Phobia/Trauma Cure (26.57).
  • Different ways of thinking about trauma (28.10).
  • Separating feelings and emotions from the traumatic or phobic event while preserving any learning (29.11).
  • NLP Backed up by science (30.00).
  • How and why our memories are often inaccurate and why the more we re-member something, the less accurate it’s likely to be! (30.28).
  • The amount of information we’re bombarded with versus what we pay attention to (32.20).
  • How beliefs impact what you pay attention to among all the ‘pixels’ that make up our day-to-day experiences (great analogy Aaron!) (32.30).

Pixellated image asking what are you paying attnention to?

  • What we see depends on our focus (33.50). You’ll find the video I mentioned here if you want to try it out on some unsuspecting friends.😜
  • Our beliefs affect our focus (36.40).
  • Where all this fits into culture (37.20).
  • How values impact us, even though they’re often outside our awareness (38.00).
  • How I discovered Neuro Linguistic Programming and the NLP book that set me on my NLP training hunt (38.56).
  • How NLP continues to evolve as the processes become shorter and, therefore, quicker (41.00).
  • Finding out what the real problem is, and why the problem is not the problem (41.20).
  • The problem is in the unconscious mind (44.00).
  • Why I don’t want people to think about how their problems originated (44.20).
  • The head, heart and gut brains, and why you only get short messages from the head and gut (45.00).
  • Suppressing and not listening to our internal voices (46.00).
  • Breaking out of unhelpful programming and discovering negative beliefs (47.08).
  • Common unwanted beliefs and how repeat experiences support those beliefs (47.30).
  • Discovering unwanted beliefs—plus a personal example (48.25).

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