Thinky Things
Thinky, Feely, Funny Stuff — for making sense of you
This is an ever-growing collection of articles and reflections about how humans think, feel, decide, react, communicate, tie themselves in knots, misunderstand each other — and occasionally surprise themselves.
These reflections grew out of:
- years of working with clients and trainees.
- noticing patterns that show up again and again — in conversations, relationships, work, stress, confidence, humour, and change.
- a single question or thought that wouldn’t leave me alone.
- conversations, recorded and shared here as short podcast or audio pieces.
You’ll find ideas here about thinking and mindset, emotions and self-talk, communication, values, resilience, motivation, and the quieter inner stuff that’s harder to name.
They’re written with care, not haste.
There are well over a hundred articles here now, so if you’re looking for something specific — a word, a theme, a question that keeps popping into your head — the search icon in the top right corner can be surprisingly helpful. Or use the category filters under the Thinky Things drop down menu.
You might want to settle in. There’s plenty to explore.
Thinky Things
Thinky, Feely, Funny Stuff — for making sense of you
A Shark, a Sheepdog… and a Shift in Perspective
A warning shouted at an actor in JAWS. A dog with his own agenda. A light-hearted look at what makes something funny — and how humour can quietly shift your perspective.
The Quiet Signs You’re Outgrowing Your Life
Change doesn’t always arrive with a bang. Sometimes it shows up in small, unsettling ways — in what you notice, what you want, and what no longer feels right.
The Curry That Upstaged the Tiny House
After my tiny house video went live on Living Big in a Tiny House, I expected comments about the design, the layout, maybe the parrot. But no, they wanted the recipe for dinner.
Nothing’s Wrong… So Why Does Everything Feel Wrong?
Feeling restless or out of place in your own life? You may be experiencing an identity shift. Here’s why it happens — and how to understand it.
How to Stop People Pleasing — Without Losing Yourself
If your sense of worth is tangled up with being useful, stopping people pleasing can feel like losing yourself. It doesn’t have to. Here’s where the pattern begins — and how to update it.
How to Deal With Guilt Without Feeling Guilty
Even if you’re a good person, guilt has sneaky way of making an everyday situation feel like a crime worth sentencing. But not all guilt is of the same variety. Differentiation might be the key to dissolution.
The Mind’s Control Panel: Why Your Brain Won’t Stop Twiddling the Dials
Peek inside The Mind’s Control Panel and learn how your internal settings influence your mood, confidence, and reactions. Small tweaks, big shifts — and surprisingly good fun.
How Can NLP Help Me?
How can NLP help me? It’s a question I’m often asked and it’s challenging to explain NLP in a sentence or two without sounding vague — or like Dr Feelgood’s Miracle Cure. These examples make it clearer.
Decluttering Memories — and Why It’s Never Just About the Stuff
Decluttering memories and emotional attachment to stuff — especially sentimental items like old photos — is at the heart of this story. It’s about letting go with love and discovering what matters most.
Decluttering and Self-Discovery: Your Home Is a Mirror, Not a Museum
Discover how decluttering isn’t just about stuff — it’s about identity. How decluttering helped me let go of old versions of myself and create more freedom, clarity, and peace.
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