Thinky Things
Thinky, Feely, Funny Stuff — for making sense of you
This is an ever-growing collection of articles and reflections about how humans think, feel, decide, react, communicate, tie themselves in knots, misunderstand each other — and occasionally surprise themselves.
These reflections grew out of:
- years of working with clients and trainees.
- noticing patterns that show up again and again — in conversations, relationships, work, stress, confidence, humour, and change.
- a single question or thought that wouldn’t leave me alone.
- conversations, recorded and shared here as short podcast or audio pieces.
You’ll find ideas here about thinking and mindset, emotions and self-talk, communication, values, resilience, motivation, and the quieter inner stuff that’s harder to name.
They’re written with care, not haste.
There are well over a hundred articles here now, so if you’re looking for something specific — a word, a theme, a question that keeps popping into your head — the search icon in the top right corner can be surprisingly helpful. Or use the category filters under the Thinky Things drop down menu.
You might want to settle in. There’s plenty to explore.
Thinky Things
Thinky, Feely, Funny Stuff — for making sense of you
9 Curious Questions To Stop You From Sabotaging Your Dreams
If you’ve failed to achieve a goal you may have been sabotaging yourself. Or perhaps you got the goal, only to discover the negative impacts of reaching it. Answering these 9 questions will help you prevent that self-sabotage in the future.
How To Stop Struggling — And Wasting Your Precious Energy
Struggling is a uniquely human trait. Nature shows us an unfolding world of constant change and flow. Yet many people ignore nature and stress themselves out trying to control everything, resisting the natural ebb and flow of life.
Why You Need To Upgrade Your Identity To Achieve A Challenging Goal
Challenging goals demand not only that you change your habits and behaviours, but also your values, beliefs, even your very identity. Without doing so, you risk failure — or success, followed by a relapse into your old identity and ways of being.
How To Develop Tiny New Habits, Change Unwanted Habits And Achieve Your Goals
Do you make resolutions and goals every year, then forget all about them by mid-January? Have you struggled to embrace new habits or kick old, unwanted habits to the kerb? In this post you’ll learn how resolutions, goals, and habits work together to bring you the success you seek.
13 Ways To Break Free Of Shyness — Before You Steal Harry Potter’s Invisibility Cloak
Shyness is not a permanent ‘condition’, but behaviours that result from an individual’s thinking patterns. Thinking patterns, and thus behaviour can be changed, you just need to know how. This post will give you the tools to break free.
Why Job Candidates With Soft Skills Beat Out High IQ Candidates 75% Of The Time
Your lack of soft skills could be holding you back; in your career, in your relationships, and even socially. It’s a common misperception that people either have these skills as personality traits — or they don’t.
Hilarious Quotes, Metaphors, And Plays On Words
Laughing keeps you healthy — physically, emotionally and mentally. So, this post contains a variety of hilarious quotes, metaphors and plays on words, which I hope will make you laugh out loud — or at least snort into your coffee.
Anchoring: What Have Pavlov’s Dogs To Do With You?
It doesn’t matter how big or small your brain is — you’re still susceptible to anchoring. While we use anchoring to train our pets, we are as easily manipulated as any other animal — sometimes more so!
How You Can Develop A Deep Rapport With Anyone — Without Saying A Word
As humans, we long for a connection that develops from deep rapport, but may not be sure how to achieve it. Learn how to create that feeling of being in sync with another.
How To Make The Right Decision When You’re Spoilt For Choice
How much time have you wasted because you couldn’t make a decision? Well, I wasted 3 hours of my life on Saturday night, but learnt a few things that will help you make decisions quicker and more easily.
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