12 Ways to Unlock Superhero-Level Resilience From Inside Your Mind


I was putting up some Power of Personal Change flyers around town the other day and met one of our podcast listeners. Always keen to deliver what people want, I asked her for ideas about what she’d like to know more about.

“Resilience”, she replied without a shred of hesitation.

She commented that we’re in times where resilience — both individual and community — is needed more than ever.

Your wish is my command!

Introducing the Resilience Podcast

Now ready for your listening. Scroll to the bottom of this page to listen in. As you can see, I’ve also created a blog post, so you can come back and review your resilience options and access the resources I’ve linked to more easily.

We need resilience more than ever

There’s a lot going on in the world right now, much of it wild and scary. It’s a time when resilience — flexibility with an ability to bounce back from adversity — is crucial.

NLP offers many skills and tools for building resilience. I’ve included links to places on the website where you can explore some of these in more detail. However, to get the whole toolkit, come and train with me. 😊 In the meantime, here are 12 options for building resilience using NLP tools and techniques.

1. Spot the Quirks in Your Thought Patterns:

I know I have some pretty quirky ways of my own — like eating cheese scones spread with jam. (Hey don’t knock it until you’ve tried it!) But what about the quirks hidden within your mind? NLP helps you uncover those annoying thought patterns, emotions, and resultant behaviours. Once you discover your own internal rebel, you can subdue him or her and take back your life. Resilience is a piece of cake (or cheese scone!) once you realise what you’re cooking up in your head.

More info: How To Inoculate Yourself Against A Weird Mind Virus

How To Think: Unlocking The Mysteries Of Positive Programming

2. Conversational Wizardry: Talking The TalkREAL People Skills eBook on the Phone

NLP takes communication up a notch. Learn the art of impeccable communication and rapport-building. Communication skills are important for resilience because they help you collaborate with others and ask for help when needed. Learn how to talk so folks listen, and build rapport like you’re chatting with your best mate at the local cafe.

More info: REAL People Skills

How You Can Develop A Deep Rapport With Anyone — Without Saying A Word

8 Counterintuitive Approaches To Improve Your Influence

3. Emotional Regulation: Keeping Cool Under Pressure

Life will throw you curveballs, and it’s important to keep your cool, especially if you want to deal with said curveballs. NLP provides tools to manage and regulate your emotions. This is crucial in resilience-building, allowing you to stay calm and composed under pressure, and making it easier to adapt to adversity.

More info: Anchoring: What have Pavlo’s dogs to do with you? 

How to create confidence (or any other useful state)

3 Steps To Stop People Pushing Your Buttons

4. Goal Setting and Motivation: Goals That Make SenseGoal Setting Book

NLP provides techniques for setting clear and achievable goals and enhancing motivation.
Setting and working towards goals gives you a sense of purpose and direction, which contributes to your resilience. If you want to feel motivated towards your goals, you must do more than just visualise them. You need to ‘sensualise’ them. I cover this aspect of goal setting and how to do it in my Goal Setting book.

More info: Free Goal Setting Workbook

How To Develop Tiny New Habits, Change Unwanted Habits And Achieve Your Goals

Why you need to upgrade your identity to achieve a challenging goal

5. Change Management: How to roll with the changes

Comfort zone sign

How to Change Your MInd - eBook

Some people don’t want change at all; they want everything to stay the same. A majority will accept changes that develop over time. And a handful of people love dramatic and constant change. Regardless of your change preference, change is inevitable. NLP has methods to reframe your perspective and view change as a positive experience.

How to Change Your Mind eBook

6. Stress-Busting: Without the Posh Spa:

Chronic stress can devastate your ability to cope with challenges, as well as affect your immune system. It’s important to use techniques such as visualisation and anchoring to reduce your anxiety and stress and build resilience. Try out my Calm Spot for a 71/2 minute taster. People say it’s better than a spa treatment — and you don’t even need to leave your seat. (You’re welcome! 😊)

More info: The stress and anxiety podcast

How To Ease Your Work Anxiety: 8 Quick And Easy Practices

7. Confidence Building

Confidence is a key aspect of resilience, as it enables you to face challenges with a positive mindset. Confidence comes from increased self-awareness, emotional regulation and many other NLP skills covered in this post. Replacing negative thoughts with positive beliefs and self-talk can also enhance self-confidence and self-esteem.

More info: How to create confidence (or any other useful state)

Anchoring: The Art of Association

8. Adaptive Thinking: Think Like a Detective

NLP helps you to develop flexible and adaptive thinking patterns. You’ll learn to look at problems from different angles and find clever solutions. This means you are better equipped to reframe negative circumstances and rebound from setbacks.

9. Conflict Resolution: Sort Out the Spats.

Hate Conflict? Don’t fret! NLP has conflict resolution techniques that can change your perspective and help you navigate and resolve conflicts. Resolving conflicts will reduce stress and improve relationships, contributing to overall resilience.

More info: How To Handle Conflict Like A Hero—But Without The Blood And Guts On The Carpet

How To Resolve A Personality Clash — All On Your Own

10. Learning from Adversity

Learn to view adversity as an opportunity for growth and learning. This mindset shift is central to resilience, as it encourages you to see setbacks as valuable experiences rather than failures. And you can turn those setbacks into stepping stones towards a happier future.

There’s No Failure, Only Feedback

11. Mindfulness: Keep Calm and Stay Present

Calm Sunset on Raglan Harbour, NZ

Learn to stay present and focused on the moment, without the need to meditate for hours on end. Being mindful can help you handle challenges and anxiety.

The Calm Spot

How To Master Flow To Be Happy, Creative And Productive

How to get what you want when you don’t have the money

12. Coping Strategies: Getting past the rough patches.

A toolkit of coping strategies is available for you to use in trying times. These strategies can include visualisation, reframing, and anchoring techniques. They’re invaluable for maintaining emotional stability in adversity.

The overall effect

By learning and applying NLP techniques, you’ll develop a firm foundation for resilience. You’ll gain the skills and mindset needed to navigate life’s challenges, adapt to change, and maintain a positive outlook, even in the face of adversity.

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